It is the end of the year and the beginning of a new year. Based on my observations and encounters with women of all ages, I have created a list of fashion attachments that do not claim to be complete.
Here resolution number 1.
1. I won’t try so hard- I am good enough!
I once encountered the expression “she tries too hard” in a fashion context and it perfectly depicts a behavior that I have seen in many different ways. (And it’s so accurate in English, I couldn’t think of an adequate translation.) You force yourself into too tight clothing, the neckline is too big, you show too much skin, hang yourself with too much jewellery, make up or shape your eyebrows too strongly. The hair is dyed too brightly, the look is too youthful, the skirt is too short, the heels too high. Fashion magazines and Instagram accounts are full of those pictures of women, and I’m not just thinking of the Kardashians.
This behavior, which “wants to add another one more”, even more, even narrower, even more decorated, even less natural, seems tense and “pushy”, it imposes itself formally and it feels uncomforted. You want to be seen and look as good as possible. That’s not reprehensible, but the being seen also goes much more relaxed.
This behaviour is very externally controlled and when I think of the women I have noticed, their statements confirm this very well. It’s always about looking as pleasing and advantageous as possible. The legs long enough, the buttocks concealed (because it’s always “too big” – no matter if 36 or 40), the neckline not too small, you want to look like an attractive woman and be perceived like that. Everything must be modified so that it fits and you are halfway satisfied. They are already beautiful before, they just don’t see it. The rest is, as I said, styling – color, shape and material.
Just relax! We usually look the best the way we are! The body looks slimmer and slimmer in the larger size, a cleared look looks more authentic and discreet make-up beats applied layers by far. Lower to flat heels create good traction and a secure footing. A harmonious hair colour beats any garish look and is rewarded with a high-quality look. It’s all a question of the right styling. So just relax, you are good enough.
Even if you don’t shake your hair, your eyelashes are too long or everyone can admire your neckline.
Finally, here are 2 very inspiring women – one university professor Lyn Slater, who has become an icon with her reduced Japanese style, and the wonderful Margret Rutherford, who is a strong and stylish Miss Marple. With humour and self-irony.